My husband thinks I won’t write about him – ah, do I have him fooled! He thought surely he should get a mention for Comedy, and then for Friendship. Probably a couple other times, too. But I was saving up. 🙂
At the risk of ruining his street cred, Mike is about as sweet and romantic as can be. The movies and television are all about the Grand Gesture as a Way of Life – as if our lives and budgets can handle those on a regular basis. Yeah, right. Mike is a master of the little gesture. Everyday, he does little things that speak volumes. Men, pay attention.* Women don’t need the Grand Gestures (one or two don’t hurt, but that’s not my point). We need a thousand little ones. Daily and weekly. Like these:
- Say good morning or hello with a kiss or embrace, or at least a touch if you’re out and about.
- Make eye contact – we like to know you really see us.
- Never part company without a kiss.
- Be cheeky – get fresh with us occasionally.
- Be a friend – listen to us, talk to us. Want to hang out with us.
- Be a cheerleader – believe in us, root for us, as we work toward our goals.
- Smiles and laughter are the best! Make sure you share them every single day.
- Inside jokes? Yes, please – it’s a connection with just you. share old ones, make new ones.
- Basic Courtesy – remember to treat your significant other with more courtesy than you would show a stranger, not less.
- Say “I love you.” Mean it. Whenever necessary, use words.
I really could go on for ages – these above are very generic. But some of the things he does…well, they’re our inside jokes (if I shared, they’d not be ‘inside’ anymore), or they’re details of how he extends courtesy (like letting the dog out at 6 am on a weekend when that’s usually my thing, but I don’t feel well), that would be too numerous and boring to you (tho’ not to me!) to recount.
These everyday little gestures say, “I love you.” “I think you’re swell.” “I’m so glad we’re together.” Is there anything more romantic than that?
Sexiness wears thin after a while, and beauty fades, but to be married to a man who makes you laugh every day, ah, now that’s a real treat. – Joanne Woodward
* – Women, this goes for us too. Men love the everyday romance as much as we do, but are often too ‘manly’ to say so.